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Emo. We've heard this term for years. I don't exactly remember when it actually started, but I didn't personally hear of it until my sophomore year. All we had was punk and gothic, but now gothic and emo are completely confused with each other. And now I'm ashamed whenever people accuse ME of being emo because they don't know the difference. Not even Southpark knows the difference.

The problem is, emo is associated with "emotion," but a depressed emotion at that. When people think of emo, they think swoopy haircut colored black, black clothing with occasional stripes, plaid, checkers, etc., hate for the sunlight, hating EVERYTHING, and writing depressing poems... oh, and cutting yourself! This is the problem...

There are people who do all these things that are not emo. I knew a very popular girl in 8th grade, Courtnie (yes, with an i), and she confided in me that she cut herself too, showing me her marks. Mind you, this was your stereotypical preppy ditz that was pretty much better than everybody else, but she was also the only popular kid who's ever genuinely been nice to me. As stuck up as she could be, I never saw her actually be mean to anyone except, you know, ex boyfriends. In lamen's terms, perfectly "normal" girl had cut herself because of sadness she hides behind her pretty, perfectly complected face.

I used to be gothic. It was when Erin started getting worse than ever, and abuse combined with manic depression, horomones, and bullies broke me. Of course, my fashion reflected that. Hell, I didn't even know what people thought gothic was. Now, of course, I don't follow labels. I wear what I want, whether it's a black frilly skirt with striped stockings or nice jeans with a pink t-shirt. I shop where I want as long as there's something I think is cute. And I'm gonna be honest, Hot Topic has disappointed me lately.

And now to the cutting. I cut myself. I've done it ever since I was thirteen, and that was BEFORE I even considered going goth. Of course, I haven't cut myself since the picture with the blue blood because I made a promise, so I've had to restrain myself... Reitanna NEVER breaks a promise. But I've got scars on both wrists, my thighs, even my hip. I've used things that range from safety pins to my own nails, keys to scissors, pointed tweezers to nail clippers, and box cutters to my own teeth. Why do I do this? Pfft, even I don't understand why. I can't say it's because of the depression, cause I've cut myself during manic episodes too, that's why they're JUST as dangerous as the depressed episodes. I guess I could say that sometimes it just feels good, and other times I'm punishing myself for what I did wrong, cause I tend to think everything's my fault. The scars remind me of how useless I am. Sometimes I honestly just want to see the blood... it's just hard to explain.

Ask an emo kid why they cut. Not sure what they might respond with, but it MIGHT sound mellow dramatic. It's almost as if this whole depression thing is a fashion right along with the clothes. Someone could have a perfectly happy life and just suddenly start faking depression. I'm not saying ALL "emos" do this, but there are some that make the stereotypes true, that's why they're stereotypes. Ever heard the saying, "down the road, not across the street?" The theory is, if you cut vertically down your wrist, you're an actual cutter, but if you do it horizontally across, you're a poser. I didn't hear this phrase for awhile after I started cutting, but I thought it was funny, seeing as how I always did it vertically. Unless of course I decided to do shapes and designs.

*Sigh* Depression, cutting, stereotypes... all very touchy and controversial subjects. But the point is, just because someone lookes "emo," doesn't mean they're actually posers. Yes, some are, but with all people, you should never judge people by their appearence or fashion, but get to know them. If it turns out they've got a psychological disorder and they cut, they still could be the sweetest people you ever meet. You could make your best friends this way. I know I did, but in reverse.

So, emo. Is it just a fashion? Are they all posers? Does it genuinely mean you've got a lot of terror going on in your head? The answer is... sometimes. Like in all races, in all species, it depends on the individual. If you choose to frown upon someone, fine and dandy for you, but you don't need to vocalize it to the person. You never know what's going on in their head, and you never know who might not be on this earth the next day.

We can't all love each other, but we CAN keep peace. Is hate really so different than love? This sorta works in reverse too. the goths and emos hark on the "preps." Think about it. Think before you act.
a thing i've thought about for a long time
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Stephisbored Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I've been called a Satanist several times because I went to school in a slipknot t shirt XD
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artimproves2 Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013   Writer
I actually had these moments too I dont cut myself because actually I hadnt boke down yet but I do wear rubber bands on my wrist you probally know why. I I just its hard too explain I guess I have these mood swings that I love pain then after that im confused and terrefide. Even when I get in that mood my hands start to tremble even when I talk about it. You see my step brother called me goth and I snapped. I said "No im not I dont know whats wrong with me but thats an insult I cant help it". Im still confused even now....
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trolly1199 Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
One time a group of complete asshats triped me and I was wearing capris and I cut one the backs of my legs cause then my "parents" cant find them. So my pants role up enough so you can see them a little bit. So these kids start laughing and calling me emo. Now this is were I differ from most cutters. I cut to keep from hurting others. It keeps me reminded not to hit without a good reason (such as self defense of sparing). I was pissed they would assume that. I legit mubbled under my breath "your lucky I just did some of these last night or your asses would be in the grass." I was pissed cause at the time I was in areopostel (spelling?). So yeah. Stoopid huuumans.
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
capris? fuck, what is WRONG with them? i love capris, especially when you wear them with knee high socks, i think they're cute. wow, if they did that to me, they'd be sorry
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trolly1199 Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
i know right! i was thinking you better be happy i not only had cut myself but had taken my nice candy. i was pissed
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NotSoAmazngGrace Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My response was always "To make the outside match the inside". My therapist said he'd never heard it summed up better... Personally I think he was just being nice to the crazy girl that liked to hide razor blades weird places.
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
make the outside match the inside? but that'd be like me wearing black when i'm sad
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NotSoAmazngGrace Featured By Owner Sep 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I also wore all black and all black makeup. my glasses and jewelry were the only colour... or well, when i was seeing that therapist, just my gold-framed glasses, as they don't like jewelry in looney bins. and that inside would be the scars on my soul, not just the black fugue of depression. (ages late response, because life sucks when you have a shitty job and then you sleep all the time.)
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sparkreigns Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2013  Hobbyist
I used to cut myself horizontally on my hips and never thought of myself as a poser. Interesting saying. Never actually considered myself emo either. It was just a way to escape for a few moments from highly stressful high school experience.
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
i think it refers to just the wrist. i have an X on my hip, so i don't think hips necessarily count.
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Nandoskennedy Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
I'm emo six years and I've met and heard of many people who cut their wrists and have suicidal thoughts, but most of them are not emo ...
This stereotype exists because of some misguided teenagers who think being emo is living in depression and be complaining of life.
Being emo is, above all, be a poet who expresses himself through visual, music and your own lifestyle. The emo is someone who seeks not only wildly FEEL ANYTHING AND CRY SO, but someone looking UNDERSTAND what feels and EXPRESS everything for the person he loves ... or save all this feeling for the person he love.
Being emo is always hope algupem to love ... without necessarily expect to be loved.
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InvaderMIA02 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Why cant we all just live in peace is it really that hard?
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MsCrayCray Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
At school several people would always have to comment on me. "You're so emo" "Hey there emo" "You're wearing black....Emo" It would just really annoy me. Heheh and of course even on days when I was wearing a bright shirt and Hello Kitty shoes I was called emo. 
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
of course, cause hello kitty is emo. gawd they're stupid
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MsCrayCray Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Yes they are. (super late reply whoo!)
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varletlegion Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
Emo, Goth, Punk, Vamp, Scene, Prep,...I-it's not really a fashion. It's more of a philosophy than anything. I don't like emo, not for what they wear, but for what they stand for. Wallowing in your negative emotions, rather than accepting it and moving on is so unhealthy and to an extent annoying to others.  I actually believe (my personal opinion) that the people that dress accordingly to their genres are the real posers, because it shouldn't be about what you wear. I actually consider myself as a Punk. I'm against social norms, I fucking hate authority (not necessarily an anarchist though)  and I listen to mainly Punk-ish genres. (I range from soft shit like Good Charlet to Slipknot). But that doesn't mean that I'm gonna dress like 'em! it's really a philosophy that you prefer to live your life by, not what you wear. :)
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
yea, no i don't dress how i feel anymore, but man i do end up drowning in depression, but it's not my fault. frankly it's just as dangerous if i go the other way. of course my real mind thinks it's all ridiculous. T_T
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varletlegion Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
Yeah. Depression's not something that you can help, but it doesn't mean you're going to lock yourself in a dark room and listen to depressing music because you're 'deep' right? You'd probably doodle or watch TV or go out or something, take your mind off that endless empty feeling in your chest for a little while, ya know not wallow in it for Emo's sake. I mean that's what I do anyways. it's never exactly gets rid of the pain, but it at least distracts you enough to not notice it for the time being. 
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
yea, when i was a teeanger i would lock myself away. but as i got older i realized i NEED people around me. i just can't be alone to be happy. there ARE times when my mind is just not motivated to do ANYTHING, though i have so many options, and sometimes that gets me down, but i try my best not to fall if i can help it. my pet rats help a lot
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varletlegion Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
Yeah my cats help me out quite a bit. Yeah sometimes you wake up and just contemplate staying in bed all day. It really sucks and I completely understand. I've got chronic depression myself... it sucks.
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
lol i contemplate staying in bed reguardless cause i'm always tired. but then i'm like "i'm wasting tiiiiiiime i need to get stuff doooooooone..."
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varletlegion Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
Yup. story of my life. :| (Blank Stare) 
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GIRismyinspiration Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Last year on the first day of school I wore a black shirt and later on in the year a kid named Jackson said that I looked emo on the first day. So I turned around and said do you even know what emo means? And he said no. Kids need to learn what words mean BEFORE they assume things about people. It's completely stupid. Don't use the word unless you're using it right! That goes to news reporters too. 'Oh that's so ironic' the word is coincidental lady XD
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
IKR? black is actually worn in professions such as hair dressing, so are hair dressers emo? jesus, black is just the lack of light. but the fact that i used to wear it to SHOW my depression IS sad. now i wear black whenever the fuck i want. like today, actually, and i feel fine O)_(O
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GIRismyinspiration Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Right?! I can wear a i dunno a neon tutu and a Reese's t shirt one day and jeans and a black shirt the next, but it won't mean anything! People need to grow up.
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Honeybearpaw Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It makes no sense!

People treating other "emos"
and "gothics" like they're some different race!

We all share the same earth,we all share the same air.The same ocean,trees,soil.
So what makes us so different to think that they can treat us like we're monsters?
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
we all bleed red
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Honeybearpaw Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Exactly.We might not tink alike.Heck.You're way older than me.Your braver and stronger than me.
But we're still the same,cause we' share the same earth and sky,don't we?
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

no matter where we live the sky is blue. i like that :)

 

"to love and to be loved is like feeling the sun from both sides"

 

i mean, i hate plenty of people, but whenever i've hated, i ignore them. i don't need to torture them, karma will get them in their own time. though, for people who have done the worst things to me, i wish i could, but still, it doesn't work that way

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Honeybearpaw Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
When people pick on me,I usually tell someone for help.But that stopped working quite a while ago,and in fact,even the teachers pick on me.
I'd rather spend my time drawing,but I put up with them taunting me about my grades in front of all the classrooms,and though my friends join me in trying to stick up for ourselves,people still call us names.I usually get the anger out by drawing at lunch,but even at home,I'm not safe cause whenever I go out...Well,They LIVE IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD.And summer doesn't relieve that either,so I rarely go out any more,and practice combative skills inside.
It's completely left me with lack of any emotion,and just thinking about them,gets me really worked up,to the point where I break stuff.It just gets annoying when people say things like we're useless.I'd just love to say "Newsflash Spart McFly,there are actually thousands who like the stuff I like,and you can find most of them online!!!" Even when I leave town,some one gave them my number,and I CAN'T BLOCK THEIR CALLS OR TEXTS!
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
gawd, i never understood why people hated me. i was a good artist and got the best grades in my classes. i was determined and my teachers loved me, especially for my reading and writing skills. as i got older the bullying got worse, but at the same time, a larger group of people started to like me, but still it seems people will make fun of anyone for anything
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Honeybearpaw Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
There's nothing wrong with that!They're jealous!Not cause you're better!Because they want what you have!And they think they'll get it by stealing your confidence!!!
Don't listen to them,you still have all your fans,they're your friends!My friends don't have deviantART's but we're making a project and were going to send it to you and pray that it will make you feel better.
And it's just like what I did.You don't need pills to make your depression go away.You need to find that passion sparking inside you and dying to be free,cause the sooner you accept yourself,the less bullying you'll feel is being out on you,and before you know it,
you won't be depressed,you'll be happy.You'll feel free.And I'd do anything to make a wonderful,awesome,amazing,
kind,and imaginative person like you,feel accepted,happy,and free!:D
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:3 you guys are so awesome, i hope you know that
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Blueyay Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
Eye opening.
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RobotAlien56 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
im not a emo but they call me emo... i dont know why... its so annoying... and also... i hate it when they keep pissing me when i was depressed...
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
it really is annoying, makes me wanna punch them in the face
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RobotAlien56 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
but we cant cause people around us will think that we are so mean... it sucks

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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
it does, i just wish they could learn to ignore us. hate us to themselves
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RobotAlien56 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
and not make issue about us that is fake
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hazzybat Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
it's annoying being called emo when you're not. my friends said it as a joke and they didn't think it hurt me but at the time i was depressed. i don't look emo at all so i never understood why they called me that considering i never told them i was upset. i don't know how others see it but i take emo as an insult and i wish people wouldn't be that just 'cause of a fad. even if you're a true emo i still think it's a bad label thing. that's just me though.

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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
i was called emo while wearing BRIGHT ass colors o_O
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xMaxine10x Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
WHYYY?! This world is running out of smart people! That doesn't even make sense why someone would think that! people should have to have a licence in order to have children!!
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
they're just so stooooooopeeeeeeed
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xMaxine10x Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
yes, yes they are
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hazzybat Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
that's really odd. 
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
yea well people like that are stoooopid
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The-Scribbly-Fairy Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
Someone once told me....and I have no idea of this is true....but apparently there's a group out there called The Seen. I can't remember if they are goth or emo, but they're called the seen because instea of dark colors they choose brighter stuff. Just tossing out a theory.
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Reitanna-Seishin Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
it's called scene, and it's a style just like all labels
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hazzybat Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
very much so
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